Is it Love Or Lust

You know the drill�you have met someone online that you think is great and you have love in your eyes for him/her. But how do you know if your love is real or if it that magnetism of lust? Well, we have some tips for you�

Some people fall in and out of love at least four times in a lifetime. Do all of these relationships leave deep grooves of tainted relationships gone bad. Not all of them do, some good ones can leave a person with a magnitude of knowledge and experiences that they may always remember a person by.

In a lifetime, the average person falls in love at least four times. But is it really love? Here are the communication, love, and respect signs to be aware of before you decide if the one you're dating is the right one for you:

Communication is very important, you need to get to know the person properly before you commit yourself first of all. By communicating honestly and with no surprises later on is your best bet. If bedroom talk is your way of communicating you can almost be guaranteed that wont last as long as a meaningful relationship.

Some of the things that you may talk about when you have a strong bond is usually life issues such as children, past relationships whether good or bad and goals that you have for life improvement and things that you are fearful of as well.

Arguing does not mean that you are not in a good relationship, as long as both are willing to make sacrifices and both are cognicant of each others emotions with some sort of agreement in the end is a definitely a good sign of some solid foundation building.

Now that you know if your love is strong, what about if you don't have what it takes in the above descriptions?

Well it doesn't take a genius to figure it out then if the only thing you know about your mate is their maybe their favorite color and food for the fear of

- You only know his favorite color and what paper he reads. You are afraid to ask him in-depth questions about his life for fear of rejection or for fear of what you might find out.

- You don't discuss how you are feeling with each other and the frustration builds up in each of you, often causing you to resent each other.

- Neither of you is willing to forgive the other.

II. Love A long lasting relationship/marriage can rarely survive without love. So is it love or are you just kidding yourself?

Good Signs:

- In a crisis you stand by each other no matter what the result.

- You make sacrifices to make the other person happy.

- You are truthful and honest and don't keep secrets from one another.

- You are emotionally, physically, and mentally compatible.

- You are friends as well as lovers.

Warning Signs:

- When the going gets tough, your partner gets going.

- Your partner has an eye for members of the opposite sex and has proved to be untrustworthy.

- Your partner lies to you about where he/she has been and only confesses when you find out the truth.

- There is little physical affection, laughter, or communication between the two of you.

- Your has been unfaithful on numerous occasions.

III. Respect

A relationship is about friendship, respect, and acceptance of one another. When there is lack of respect for the other trust and respect is replaced by suspicion and can slowly grow to hatred.

Good Signs:

- You are aware of your partner's faults and are able to accept some imperfections.

- You support and encourage each other's individual interests and identity.

- You take the time to listen and understand the other's point opinion. Warning Signs:

- You criticize each other in front of others.

- Your partner will not give you space to indulge in your interests and wants to spend every minute of the day with you.

- You are constantly struggling to live up to your partner's standards or the person you think your partner wants you to be.

- You can't forgive and/or forget each other's mistakes. Be aware and objective about your relationship. If you can't nurture it, then it may be time to leave. If it's strong, then building upon mutual love, respect, and communication will only make it stronger.

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